Don’t ask your server his name upon first meeting. Like prostitutes or strippers — do you really need to know our real names? We will always assume you’re only asking so that you can boss us around more personally. If you feel a connection with your server as the evening progresses, then discreetly ask for an introduction.
[…] humanity to the servant/recipient relationship. Tactfully executed, sometimes it can. But when guests ask servers to introduce themselves it can often feel like they need the server to be a puppet. Waiters don’t like when guests invade […]
[…] questions may cause waiters to avoid your table. If you insist on knowing your server’s name, always introduce yourself first. It’s less threatening and reinforces that you see them as […]